From the moment you are born, you are hard wired to fit in.
If you can connect to someone/something that will nurture you, you will survive.
You learn from experience and you adapt.
You do what it takes to fit in, to be accepted, to be loved - to feel safe.
You do this at home, at school, at play, wherever you go and with the people you come into contact with.
Those basic survival instincts becomes intwined with your behaviours, responses, thoughts and feelings.
You create new brain patterns which automate your future decisions.
And this all builds up to create your identity - who you see yourself as.
In this process of redinfing yourself, of moving away from your authentic self, you reduce the coherance between the mind, the body and the heart.
You disconnect from being in your heart and being your true self as that wasn't accepted.
and that starts to become entrenched in your heart, mind and body.
If you were born into an emotionally healthy system, you would find it easy to fit in and you would receive unconditional love and acceptance.
You would flourish into a healthy, happy, carefree and confident person.
Unfortunately, that is rare and the impact of an emotionally unhealthy system on a small child is huge.
You create coping mechanisms and strategies in your early days or through trauma to feel in some way safe, loved, accepted.
Coping mechanisms stop you from being your true selves.
You stop trusting our gut.
Stop listening to your heart.
Disconnect your body from your mind.
Many people go up in their heads and try to live from there.
Your mind then subconsciously attracts situations that will reaffirm your limiting beliefs.
People spend time either going back to the original trauma, replaying events that were subsequently shaped by the trauma or unconsciously recreating similar situations.
In affect, living in memories of the past.
Your body and brain do not know the difference between replaying memories, thinking of a future emotionally charged situation or experiencing emotions in the present moment.
You maybe affectively living in the past and in a regular state of stress or disconnection.
No organism can withstand constant stress.
No organism can be healthy when it disconnects energetically from it own body.
If you watch an animal. after a stressful situation, they shake it off, rest and recover.
Most humans live in constant stress and dont shake it off and they dont let it go. they store it in their brains and in their bodies.
Thats unsustainable.
We have literally evolved to become disconnected from our bodies.
Our behaviours, thoughts and feelings defined by our past.
If this goes on for years it can create long term pain in the body and chronic illness.
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